2. Become A Student Of All-Day Foreplay
Amazing sex starts long before you enter the bedroom. To arouse your partner, start as soon as you both wake up. It can be as simple as a kiss and telling them how beautiful they are, or it can be some physical foreplay before getting out of bed in the morning, or even literally scheduling sex into your calendars. While that sounds like the opposite of ‘new and fun’, sex therapist Desiree Spierings, director of counselling practice Sexual Health Australia, says there is nothing wrong with this approach – in fact, when people expect sex to happen spontaneously, it rarely does. If you both know what’s coming, you’re more likely to get excited looking forward to it throughout the day.
Build the anticipation by sending suggestive texts while you’re working, or get her a gift voucher to a luxury lingerie store and tell her to go buy something that makes her feel sexy. Do whatever it takes to make sure SEX is on both your brains when you see each other next. “When my wife sends me sexual texts while I’m at work all day, it really gets me going… so when I get home I’m ready to tear her clothes off,” reveals this Redditor. “Try teasing him via text message, tell him what you want him to do to you, send him a few sexy pics. Do this when he is at work and won’t be home for hours. He will have all day to think about it and get worked up.” It works the same way for women – don’t think you’re above taking sexy pics for her.
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