8. “He Better Not Grab My Head”
This is a more detailed version of what we discussed earlier, in the intro. The point of going down is pleasuring your partner according to your own rhythm. It’s pleasurable because it’s surprising. It excites with paces and places you may never have thought of. It’s a little bit like when someone else picks an ensemble from your wardrobe and you’re like: “How have I never thought of that pairing? I LIKE IT.” So when you grab the back of her head and go, “NO. DO THIS.” it shows ungrateful for an act of sincere generosity. Also, it makes you gag. Let her do her thing. You’ll have your chance to take control later in the exercise.