Day 6: Give more compliments—to your partner and to yourself.
When was the last time that you truly, honestly complimented your spouse? Not just telling him that his butt looks great in those jeans or saying ‘good job’ when he said his presentation went well, but for something genuine and specific? And perhaps more importantly, when was the last time you really gave yourself a pat on the back for all of your own amazing qualities?
According to Geter, not only are compliments easy to overlook, but their power is often understated.
“We get so focused on trying to please others that we forget to acknowledge our own efforts and hard work,” she says. “So every morning or night, look at yourself in the mirror and give yourself one compliment about your efforts in your relationship. Try to choose something different every day. If you are person who enjoys touch, give yourself a great big hug as well. These tricks are commonly used in therapy to help alleviate depression and anxiety, so why not try some self-therapy at home?”
While you’re busy listing why you’re awesome, do the same for your husband. You might say, “I really love how supportive and encouraging you are with our son. He loves you and appreciates you so much, and so do I. You’re a wonderful father.”
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