4. You believe women are testing you
Now, there are a lot of bad ideas in this article, but there’s one part that truly takes the taco.
This, this right here, is something that comes up all the time that drives me up the fucking wall: the idea that women “test” men by ignoring them or rejecting them. In PUA jargon, this is known as a “shit-test” and women supposedly do this to find out if you’re “man enough.”
OK, first of all: no. No they don’t. A woman who’s ignoring you, listening to her music or studiously reading her phone isn’t trying to see if you’re “confident enough” for her, she doesn’t want to fucking talk to you. Period.
Second of all: Yes, I know that there is the odd statistical anomaly out there who actually does shit-test guys. In my time, I’ve run into one or two. Literally, that’s one or two, out of hundreds of partners and dates and thousands of approaches.
A woman who’s “testing” you and wants you to push past her “no” is akin to someone winning the lottery. It may happen to someone, but the odds of it being you are so remote they don’t make numbers small enough to represent it mathematically.
Just as importantly, however, is that games like that are bullshit. If someone were to pull some bizarre test on you, then you shouldn’t be rewarding them with your time and attention. And quite frankly, if they did, then why in pluperfect hell would you want to fuck them in the first place? I’m not saying I’ve been everywhere and done everything, but I can tell you that there is nobody in the world who’s so good in bed that they’re worth putting up with behavior like that.
If, in your travels, you come across this fantastical beast (you won’t) and she wants you to try harder after the initial rejection (she doesn’t), then give them a hard pass. You have far better uses for your time up to and including reorganizing your Pokemon by color. If she really wants you to try harder to impress her, then she can damn well use her words and say so.
All of this is a paper-thin excuse for guys to behave like dicks in order to get their way. It’s a way of pretending that rejection doesn’t exist. The myth of women shit-testing guys is just an excuse for guys to ignore a “no”, “I’m not interested” and “go away”. It’s teaching that a “no” is really a “yes” if you try hard enough and holy shit that’s an insanely bad thing to teach.
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