4. You lose your identity and personal life when you’re half of a couple.
Perhaps you could argue that there are desirable things about “forsaking friends for a partner.” But be aware that putting all your eggs in one basket has its pitfalls as well.
When you lose closeness with other friends, you may have less freshness and variety to bring to the relationship. Your friends may resent taking second place every time you begin a romance.
If your personal life has been “taken over” in the past, and you’ve ended up wondering who you are, get support in maintaining your own life — a friend, therapist, classes, reading. Read books like Ken Keyes’ “A Conscious Person’s Guide to Relationships”. Pages 134-142 are timeless.
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