7. You share too much or to little.
A mistake here is sharing too much too soon (that your sisters all had to get married, or you are manic depressive, or your last four boyfriends broke up with you because you still wouldn’t kiss after three months).
I am not advocating lying, but consider a dating partner like a new plant from the nursery. If you overwater it, you can kill it as easily as if you give it no attention.
It’s probably enough the first couple dates to be casual and talk about what you enjoy, what matters to you, some growing up experiences — things that give each other a flavor of you without intimidating or overwhelming.
On the other hand, some dating suffers from too little, too late.
A friend had grown very fond of a man; they were in his bedroom, months after their first meeting, before he told her he had herpes. Not fair. He could have brought it up casually much sooner by asking if she’d had any experiences with herpes, and noting her reactions.
If she said it would be no problem, that would also have been the time to tell her.
Do men and women communicate differently? Read Deborah Tannen’s “You Just Don’t Understand” and John Grey’s “Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus”. Don’t expect men to relate like women. OK?
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