2. Limits
Limits are the hard, essential core of negotiation. Limits come in two kinds: hard and soft.
Hard limits are those things you know 100 percent that you will not do under any conditions. There are obvious ones, like no dismemberment, but also less obvious ones. For some bottoms, marks are a hard limit, while others want them badly. Some tops categorically refuse to draw blood, while others crave making their bottoms bleed. Whatever your hard limits are, be sure you know them and can express them clearly.
Soft limits are things that scare you a little, but that you may want to experience anyway. You can enjoy a bare-handed spanking but be a little fearful of paddles or straps, for example. Soft limits are the kind that are negotiable, that you may want to try pushing with the right person.
If you’re not sure if a limit is hard or soft, go on the side of caution and mark it as hard. You can always change your mind for the next scene.
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