3. Skills, experience and interests
After you talk limits, you can start discussing your mutual interests. Do you share any kinks? You want to find someone who’s into the same things you’re into, so this step is an essential one.
You might want to talk about what you’ve actually experienced versus what you want to experience. You might want to ask your potential partner how long they’ve been practicing BDSM and what kinds of skills they consider themselves to have. Are they good with whips, but bad with floggers? That’s something to discuss.
This step is more about establishing general compatibility and making sure that both of you will have fun during the scene.
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