7. Sexual contact
In some play spaces, sexual contact isn’t allowed, but it is in others. Not everyone who plays does so for sexual reasons, but a lot of people do.
If you’re playing privately or in a space that allows sexual contact, you must agree on whether sexual contact can happen or not. It can be very traumatizing for someone expecting a nonsexual scene to suddenly have someone touch them sexually.
This is where you need to be very clear about your boundaries. And yes, you’re allowed to say no to kissing, but yes to digital stimulation, for example. Or you can say no to everything, and that’s perfectly fine too. Just ensure that your play partner knows your wishes when it comes to sex.
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