2. When they say it first — and it doesn’t scare you.
When someone tells you “I love you”, it’s normal to have a couple of different reactions. The first, and most unpleasant, is straight up panic. Sure, you might enjoy the company of the person you are with, and you might be able to see yourself one day falling in love with them, but that’s ONE DAY, it’s not today.
If you have this reaction to someone saying “I love you”, do not just say “I love you” back because you are panicked and also don’t want to hurt their feelings.
The gesture is nice in the moment, but if you are saying you love someone just to be nice, you’re actually being pretty cruel.
If someone says “I love you” to you first and your reaction is the sound of angels playing bass guitars and visions of chocolate cake dancing in your head, THEN it’s totally fine to say, “I love you, too!” In fact, it’s better than totally fine, it’s awesome!
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