If you really want to make your relationship work – It’s a lot more simple than you’d think. What do men need in a loving relationship? The short answer to this question may surprise you. Men need a great deal from a relationship. We are not as simple as we may seem.
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Men have incredibly deep emotional needs. We experience emotions and heal differently than women do. For a deeper exploration of this, you can read Why is Emotional Healing So Much More Difficult For Men?
Men do better in a relationship than we do when we are on our own.
We may seem that we could be fine on our own, but we prefer to be together with someone else. We love being loved even though the experience of being loved may scare the hell out of us. The fact that men have improved health in a relationship isn’t really on our minds. Nor is the fact that we will live longer when we are with someone. And no, it isn’t really about the sex.
Men crave love and we do better when we are both in love and being loved.
It is true that men can feel terrified about intimacy, but despite this, more men will seek out the experience of an intimate relationship than will decide to go it alone.
For many man, being in love is a little like living inside of a haunted house. The ghosts have been chased out and the house is no longer haunted, but it still contains rooms full of mystery. We know that we have skeletons lurking somewhere in the home, but it’s not really about that anymore. It’s just that love lets us make it a home again.
For many men, we need relationships because we know that love can warm you up and make you more than you could be on your own.
Men need four things from a relationship:
Sex: Men crave sex not only for the physical act, but for what it makes us feel. Sex meets many of our needs that we may have difficulty articulating. It is not just about the pleasure.
Affection: Men need to be loved. Being in a relationship is about feeling cared for and men, no matter how hard or distant we may seem, we need to be cared for.
We may experience difficulty letting our guard down, but that does not minimize our need for love.