Tricks women use: When it comes to sexual powers of attraction, there’s one thing I lovemore than anything else: being on a man’s mind. Sure, you could entrance him with your body, offer him his favorite drink and meal and keep him captive in your bed for a few hours, but being on his mind is, in my experience, more powerful than anything you could ever do while face-to-face.
Being on his mind means he’s thinking of you every minute and every second. Being on his mind means he’s distracted, crazy, imagining doing all kinds of things to you, that he’s all yours.
1. Start with being interesting.
Sure, you won’t be interesting to everyone, but there’s a way to improve your conversational powers with those who do find you interesting.
The secret to being a good conversationalist is to be a good listener.
I used to think that being in conversation was about me being heard, me being loud, me being right — and I lost several friendships because of this attitude. So I learned to listen. Actually, I learned this skill from The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey. It’s the kind of book you read regularly (once a year for me). There’s always new information to glean from it.
Practicing active listening literally changed my life.
It’s changed my relationships and improved my social skills. It’s made me aware that I have a deep vein of wisdom and a generous capacity for listening that I can also use professionally.
So, if you want to captivate him and be constantly on his mind, first you need to listen to him. Ask questions about his interests, his feelings and his desires. Glean as much information as you can about the things that turn him on, both physically and intellectually. With that information in hand, you can then develop conversations about what he enjoys talking about, which will make him simply love being in your company.