I deliberately dated a wider range of men with the hope of meeting the love of my life. The irony was — the more men I affirmed, flattered and respected, the more men I attracted. The more men I attracted, the more confident I became. And the more confident I became, the more men I again I attracted!
Want to try this yourself? Here are four ways to lean into the “I love all men” mindset:
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Everywhere you go, look for ways to accept, value and appreciate men. Make a conscious effort to recognize the good qualities (small and large) of the men you encounter. The man holding the door for you is courteous. The man in the restaurant was humorous. The male clerk at the hardware store was knowledgeable and helpful. Secretly tell yourself: This man has value. This man is someone’s loved one.
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Keep an open mind about the men you date. Reject the belief that all men are jerks. When you’re sitting in front of a not-so-hot date, laugh at his humor, admire his intelligence and enjoy his unique personality. Tell yourself: I’m not going to marry him, I may never want to talk to him again, but in this moment, I will respect and appreciate this man. I will give him a chance to reveal his best qualities.
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