4. Decide how you’re going to avoid the situation in the future .
Even if part of your apology isn’t detailing your plan to avoid the situation in the future, have one. Life is too short to keep making the same mistake(s) again unless you really don’t give a waffle cone. Not just as a decent person who doesn’t want to hurt the same person or people in the same way, but as a person who may lose her mind hearing the same howls over and over again.
Changing one-time behavior is pretty simple. Changing patterns is doable but it involves a lesson in humility and lifestyle change that most of us just aren’t ready for.
The tricky part about changing is that no one believes you can because of how painfully difficult real, lasting change is. Even without backslides, you’re open to ad hominem attacks and our stubborn tendency to remember (and periodically inflate) a person’s periodic worst days. It takes a phenomenally just and honorable person to own up to his or her mistakes. And, like all of our actions, there can be painful repercussions.
We may live in the era of hurt feelings and misunderstandings but we can stop the rise of the age of pettiness by saying “sorry” and meaning it here and there.
By Tom Miller, Yourtango.com
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4. Decide how you’re going to avoid the situation in the future .
Even if part of your apology isn’t detailing your plan to avoid the situation in the future, have one. Life is too short to keep making the same mistake(s) again unless you really don’t give a waffle cone. Not just as a decent person who doesn’t want to hurt the same person or people in the same way, but as a person who may lose her mind hearing the same howls over and over again.
Changing one-time behavior is pretty simple. Changing patterns is doable but it involves a lesson in humility and lifestyle change that most of us just aren’t ready for.
The tricky part about changing is that no one believes you can because of how painfully difficult real, lasting change is. Even without backslides, you’re open to ad hominem attacks and our stubborn tendency to remember (and periodically inflate) a person’s periodic worst days. It takes a phenomenally just and honorable person to own up to his or her mistakes. And, like all of our actions, there can be painful repercussions.
We may live in the era of hurt feelings and misunderstandings but we can stop the rise of the age of pettiness by saying “sorry” and meaning it here and there.
By Tom Miller, Yourtango.com
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