<p class="entry-title" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #000000;"><a style="color: #000000;" href="http://theinfong.com/tag/love" target="_blank"><strong>How to deal with a break up and move on</strong></a>: Break ups suck! But you really have no choice, do you? Use these 10 steps on how to move on and deal with a break up, and make yourself stronger too. If there’s one thing that sucks about love, it’s the uncertainty of it.</span></p> <span style="color: #000000;"><strong>More..</strong></span> <ul> <li><span style="color: #0000ff;"><a style="color: #0000ff;" href="http://theinfong.com/2015/04/how-to-love-again-after-being-hurt-by-the-one-you-loved/" target="_blank">How to love again after being hurt by the one you loved..</a></span></li> <li><span style="color: #0000ff;"><a style="color: #0000ff;" href="http://theinfong.com/2015/04/top-4-love-positions-women-absolutely-love-guys-get-in-here/" target="_blank">Top 4 sex positions women love so much – Guys, get in here!</a></span></li> <li><span style="color: #0000ff;"><a style="color: #0000ff;" href="http://theinfong.com/2015/04/unmarried-celebrity-dads-in-nigeria-and-their-baby-mamas/" target="_blank">See the 15 unmarried celebrity dads in Nigeria + their baby mamas & kids (+Photos)</a></span></li> <li><span style="color: #0000ff;"><a style="color: #0000ff;" href="http://theinfong.com/2015/04/see-thoughts-all-african-women-secretly-have-about-sex/" target="_blank">See thoughts all African women secretly have about sex..</a></span></li> <li><span style="color: #0000ff;"><a style="color: #0000ff;" href="http://theinfong.com/2015/04/trouble-in-p-square-as-paul-and-peter-publicly-shade-themselves/" target="_blank">Trouble in P Square as Paul and Peter publicly shade themselves – See what happened!</a></span></li> </ul> <a href="http://theinfong.com/tag/love"><img class="alignnone wp-image-48046" src="http://theinfong.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/02/broken-heart-love-theinfong.com_-800x600.jpg" alt="broken-heart-love-theinfong.com" width="603" height="452" /></a> <p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #000000;">You could fall in love with someone, be happy for years and then, just like that, the whole relationship could come crashing down.</span></p> <p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #000000;">If you’re the one who doesn’t feel like the relationship is working out, that’s great for you because big chances are, you’ll get over your ex pretty soon after the break up.</span></p> <p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #000000;">But what if you’re the sad and miserable one, the one that’s left crawling on the floor, shattered inside and trying to pick up the pieces of your broken heart?</span></p> <p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #000000;">Well, if you’re that lover, then love can be a real bitch for you.</span></p> <p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #000000;">No matter what you do or how hard you try, there’s a constant hammering in your head and a hollow pit in your heart that nothing can fill.</span></p> <p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #000000;"><strong>How to deal with a break up when you’re a mess</strong></span></p> <p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #000000;">Nobody likes a bad break up because it’s just pitiful.</span></p> <p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #000000;">A relationship where both lovers just drift apart or end up simultaneously meeting new lovers seems so much better than the traditional breakup.</span></p> <p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #000000;">But almost all the time, if your lover leaves you, they may already have someone else in mind. After all, when we’re as selfish as the human beings that we are, we like having a backup plan with everything we do in life. </span></p> <p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #000000;">As humans, we need a purpose for everything, and for breaking up too, we need to believe that there’s something better out there for us.</span></p> <p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #000000;">But leaving human psychology aside, the fact of the matter still rests. You’ve broken up. You’re hurting. You need to move on.</span></p> <p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #000000;">It hurts, but you really, really have no choice at all. But you knew that already, didn’t you?</span></p> <p style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://theinfong.com/tag/love" target="_blank"><span style="color: #000000;"><strong>Navigate using <--> pages</strong></span></a><!--nextpage--></p> <p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #000000;"><strong>How to move on after a breakup</strong></span></p> <p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #000000;">Acceptance is the biggest hurdle after a break up. Most of us constantly pine for a second chance or constantly hope that our ex will want us back. But as long as you keep that flicker of hope alive and think of your ex often, you will always writhe in misery and pain. And you’ll never be able to move on. </span></p> <p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #000000;">To truly understand how to move on after a break up, you need to have the strength to accept that the relationship is over.</span></p> <p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #000000;">And if your ex does ever come crawling back to you a few months down the lane, you need to convince yourself that you will not get back with them. If you live your life in the constant hope that your ex may someday realize how much they love you and need you, you’re only going to feel worse with each passing day, especially if your ex starts to date someone else.<!--nextpage--></span></p> <p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #000000;"><strong>How to deal with a break up and smile!</strong></span></p> <p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #000000;">Your will power and your determination is the only thing that matters when it comes to moving on after a break up. Nothing else will help you, not your friends and not a string of flings. Hold your ground, convince yourself that you’re ready to move on and get away from the pain. And use these steps to move on and deal with a break up.<!--nextpage--></span></p> <p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #000000;"><strong>#1 Don’t write letters.</strong> There’s always a constant itch to get in touch with an ex. When you feel down, when you listen to a romantic song, or even when you’re drunk. But hold that thought. Never try to get in touch with an ex unless you’re just bumping into them accidentally. It’ll weaken your resolve to get over your ex.</span></p> <p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #000000;">If you find yourself writing a long email to your ex, write it if you must but don’t send it. Hold on to that draft copy overnight. When you wake up in the morning, you’d realize that it was just a weak moment and you don’t really want to send the email anymore. By waiting a while, you’d be able to feel stronger about your own resolve. The same rule can be applied to phone calls and texts too.</span></p> <p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #000000;">If an uncontrollable urge to call or text your ex overwhelms you, don’t stop yourself. Instead, just convince yourself that you’ll call the next morning if you still feel like it. Each time you put away a phone call or an email, you’d feel more confident about getting over your ex and moving on. <!--nextpage--></span></p> <p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #000000;"><strong>#2 Deal with the addiction.</strong> Exes are an addiction, just like any other serious life threatening addiction in the world. And the worst part here, is that you can’t really cut down a little bit at a time. You have no choice but to go cold turkey and avoid all contact. It will hurt and you will feel terrible, but you’ll feel better a week later, and even better another week later.</span></p> <p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #000000;">Treat your ex like a bad addiction, and learn to deal with the break up. It’ll help you when you start to see your ex as something that’s bad for your life.<!--nextpage--></span></p> <p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #000000;"><strong>#3 The evil selfish ex. </strong>Let’s face it, if your boyfriend or girlfriend dumps you, they’re evil *at least in your head*. If your ex gets rude or yells at you when you try to talk to them, or if they ignore you, or if they look at you with spite and disgust each time you walk up to them, you have every right to believe that they’re evil, selfish little devils. But you know what, you can’t blame them for it.</span></p> <p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #000000;">Your ex doesn’t like you anymore, they despise you. Of course, they could be nicer and try to be more understanding. But you can’t expect every ex to hold you by the hand and help you find the way out. A few exes prefer tripping you and kicking you where it hurts. Hate them for it. But deal with it. And get over it. <!--nextpage--></span></p> <p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #000000;"><strong>#4 Replay your relationship.</strong> While you sitting alone and staring at a wall or an empty glass of wine, replay the relationship in your head. Pick the mistakes and the flaws in the relationship, and try to see where things started falling apart.</span></p> <p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #000000;">But remember to pick the mistakes, not the pieces of the relationship. The love affair is over. What you need here is to try and figure out where you went wrong, and where your partner hurt you. Were you trying too hard to please, insecure, clingy, or were you just too busy with your own life? And about your ex, try to pick their flaws too, so you don’t fall for another person with the same flaws again.<!--nextpage--></span></p> <p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #000000;"><strong>#5 Don’t force yourself.</strong> For the first week or so, don’t bother trying to convince yourself that you’re over your ex. Just let life take its course. Do your best to get over your ex by keeping yourself occupied, but don’t force your mind to forget your ex. You may be successful in bottling the thoughts, but they’ll always come back now and then in surges that will hurt you more. <!--nextpage--></span></p> <p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #000000;"><strong>#6 Stay miserable.</strong> Allow yourself to feel miserable and hurt. But time yourself and keep an eye on the calendar. Give yourself about three weeks to get over your ex. Mark the date on your calendar with a big red marker.</span></p> <p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #000000;">Think about your ex for those three weeks, but constantly remind yourself that at the end of these three weeks, you’ll wake up the next morning and completely overcome the sadness you’re feeling. Keeping a date marked on the calendar can psychologically prepare you to get over your ex. And at times, your wound may heal even before those three weeks!<!--nextpage--></span></p> <p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #000000;"><strong>#7 Fantasize the high road revenge. </strong>There are two types of fantasies you can think about after a break up, the I-wish-we-could-get-back fantasy, and the I’ll-get-even-with-you fantasy. Don’t try anything below the belt like spreading naked photos or cheap comebacks like that, it’s not fair and you’ll never forgive yourself for years if you even have the slightest semblance of a conscience.</span></p> <p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #000000;">Take the higher road. Convince yourself that you’ll put your focus and energy into other positive things, so that one fine day, many years from now, you’d do something spectacular with your life. And fantasize scenarios where you’d run into your ex. It’s not fair, but it helps for the moment. And odds are you may forget all about this a few years later. Don’t know what I mean? Go watch Cee Lo’s F*ck you on youtube. Fantasizing about success and exes makes the dreams of success so much sweeter!<!--nextpage--></span></p> <p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #000000;"><strong>#8 Laugh like a crazy person. </strong>For the first few weeks, don’t convince yourself you’re happier. Just wallow in your self pity and depression. But once you wake up one day and feel better, a few weeks later, laugh! Feel the happiness well within you. Realize how good you feel. It takes a while, but you’ll feel it when you’re ready. Listen to happy songs, watch funny movies, and laugh out loud. When you’re ready to move on from your sad state, your mind will be more than happy to help you have a nice time. <!--nextpage--></span></p> <p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #000000;"><strong>#9 Curiosity and the no contact rule.</strong> The no contact rule is really important. You can use all the other steps and follow it to the tee, but if you screw up here, you’ll be back on square one in no time. Have you ever looked for your ex’s facebook page sometime *just to see what they’re doing*?</span></p> <p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #000000;">The first time you take a peek at your ex’s page, you won’t think too much about it. But as time goes by, you’d end up visiting their page more and more often, until you realize you’re addicted to the idea of wanting to know more about you ex. There’s no escaping your ex once you get wrapped up in the curiosity of knowing more. Avoid it. Don’t stay in contact, and don’t go looking for information either.<!--nextpage--></span></p> <p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #000000;"><strong>#10 Get better and sexier.</strong> Have a life, go on out there and enjoy yourself. Sitting by yourself in the corner of the room will never make you feel better. Date others or at least meet a few interesting dating potentials that catch your fancy. Remember, you’ll have a very difficult time moving on if you find out that your ex is dating someone new, especially if you aren’t getting flirty with someone else already.</span></p> <p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #000000;">Work out and get fit. You’ll look better, and the endorphins released in your body will make you feel more upbeat and look sexier.</span></p> <p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #000000;">A heartbreak isn’t the end of the world. Sometimes, as hard as you try to prevent it, break ups are inevitable. What you do next and how you pull yourself together to deal with the break up makes all the difference between a person who experiences a break up, and a broken lover who gives up on a chance to have a happy life again.</span></p> <p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #000000;"><strong>Use these 10 steps on how to move on and deal with a break up. Following these steps may seem easy at first, but it isn’t as easy to follow as you think!</strong></span></p> <p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #000000;">-By Ethan Kent, Lovepanky</span></p> <span style="color: #ff0000;"><b><a style="color: #ff0000;" title="TheInfoNG on BBMC" href="http://www.pin.bbm.com/C001B7774" target="_blank">CLICK HERE</a></b></span> <span style="color: #000000;"><strong>to join our <a style="color: #000000;" title="theinfong.com" href="http://theinfong.com" target="_blank">BBM Channel</a> for faster updates</strong></span> <span style="color: #000000;"><strong>TOP POSTS YESTERDAY</strong></span> <ul> <li><span style="color: #0000ff;"><a style="color: #0000ff;" href="http://theinfong.com/2015/04/photos-from-sultan-of-bruneis-sons-wedding/" target="_blank">See what Arab billionaire wedding looks like – Photos from Sultan of Brunei’s son’s wedding (Look)</a></span></li> <li><span style="color: #0000ff;"><a style="color: #0000ff;" href="http://theinfong.com/2015/04/7-foods-that-clears-your-complexion-and-make-you-look-younger-in-less-than-one-week/" target="_blank">7 foods that clears your complexion and make you look younger in less than one week!</a></span></li> <li><span style="color: #0000ff;"><a style="color: #0000ff;" href="http://theinfong.com/2015/04/see-the-nudist-beach-in-south-africa-where-everyone-goes-naked-photo/" target="_blank">See the Nudist beach in South Africa where everyone goes naked (Photo)</a></span></li> <li><span style="color: #0000ff;"><a style="color: #0000ff;" href="http://theinfong.com/2015/04/sex-positions-women-love/" target="_blank">Top 4 sex positions women love so much – Guys, get in here!</a></span></li> <li><span style="color: #0000ff;"><a style="color: #0000ff;" href="http://theinfong.com/2015/04/nigerian-celebrities-and-their-multimillion-naira-mansions/" target="_blank">Top 10 Nigerian celebrities and their multimillion naira mansions – See who’s got the most expensive</a></span></li> <li><span style="color: #0000ff;"><a style="color: #0000ff;" href="http://theinfong.com/2015/04/10-unbelievable-foods-for-great-health/" target="_blank">10 unbelievable foods for great sex</a></span></li> <li><span style="color: #0000ff;"><a style="color: #0000ff;" href="http://theinfong.com/2015/04/spice-up-your-relationship-with-this-30-day-challenge/" target="_blank">Spice up your relationship with this 30 day challenge</a></span></li> <li><span style="color: #0000ff;"><a style="color: #0000ff;" href="http://theinfong.com/2015/04/36-small-but-wonderful-ways-he-shows-he-loves-you/" target="_blank">36 small but wonderful ways he shows he loves you – Take note of these!</a></span></li> <li><span style="color: #0000ff;"><a style="color: #0000ff;" href="http://theinfong.com/2015/04/15-ways-to-satisfy-a-woman-during-sex/" target="_blank">15 ways to satisfy a woman during sex – They always work!</a></span></li> <li><span style="color: #0000ff;"><a style="color: #0000ff;" href="http://theinfong.com/2015/04/how-to-stop-thinking-about-someone-you-still-like/" target="_blank">How to stop thinking about someone you still like [Read]</a></span></li> <li><span style="color: #0000ff;"><a style="color: #0000ff;" href="http://theinfong.com/2015/04/photos-amber-rose-caught-in-lesbian-activity-look/" target="_blank">Photos: Amber Rose caught in lesbian activity (Look)</a></span></li> <li><span style="color: #0000ff;"><a style="color: #0000ff;" href="http://theinfong.com/2015/04/5-foods-and-drinks-that-kills-fat-this-will-really-help-you/" target="_blank">5 foods and drinks that kills fat – This will really help you!</a></span></li> <li><span style="color: #0000ff;"><a style="color: #0000ff;" href="http://theinfong.com/2015/04/irls-really-want-from-their-boyfriend/" target="_blank">What girls really want from their boyfriend – You need to see this!</a></span></li> <li><span style="color: #0000ff;"><a style="color: #0000ff;" href="http://theinfong.com/2015/04/7-small-habits-that-steals-your-happiness-which-you-need-to-give-up-now/" target="_blank">7 small habits that steals your happiness which you need to give up NOW!</a></span></li> <li><span style="color: #0000ff;"><a style="color: #0000ff;" href="http://theinfong.com/2015/04/actress-bimbo-akintola-caught-fighting-in-public-look/" target="_blank">Actress Bimbo Akintola caught fighting in public (Look)</a></span></li> </ul> <!--nextpage-->
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