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3. You discover the emotional side of yourself.

Being in a relationship and letting someone into your life takes courage and strength.

Letting yourself become vulnerable emotionally can make you feel so weak that you become so strong.

It’s hard to even really discover and understand who we are  –  our passion, our strengths and weaknesses, likes and dislikes, the way we think and our own beliefs and core values  —  let alone discovering the emotional side of ourselves.

When we’re in a relationship, we become so vulnerable emotionally that we realise what makes us feel whole, what completes us emotionally and what fulfils our self-esteem and self-confidence from the inside out. What kind of love makes you feel loved?

Everyone has a different definition and expression for love.

And if two people with different definitions and ways of expression for love come together, they can feel unfulfilled because there’s always something lost in translation between the two.f

Some people show love through giving and receiving material things. To some, love equates security. Some crave affection.

Whatever love means to you, you’d only discover what it is that makes you feel loved from a partner by being in a relationship. And if you’re lucky, you only have to go through one. But for most of us, it takes several relationships to discover one that fits us most perfectly.

4. You learn the value of give and take.

Compromising can mean a lot of work especially for people growing up independently. To some, it’s second to nature especially if you grow up in a big and close-knit family.

There is chemistry  —  and there is compatibility. The two don’t always come together equally.

• If chemistry is higher than compatibility level, then there’s a lot of compromise – from the way you look at the world and understand things, what you believe in, to taste in music, food and lifestyle choices.

• If the compatibility is higher than chemistry, then there’s a lack of passion and boredom occurs.

In a relationship, you learn the value and the art of give-and-take. We humans are selfish, and it takes willpower to be able to give and take when the level of difference and clash is high.

When it’s too much to handle, you realize that this whole give-and-take thing is coming to an end. It’s not going to work. The compromise cannot be compromised anymore.

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