It’s this way with exes. They are what we are most familiar with when we think about love, even in a future sense we know we’ll never have with them. They are “our person” until someone else comes along and takes that role away.
I used to be really hard on myself about how long it took me to get over someone. I’d feel embarrassed that if he knew I still thought about him, he’s think I was a crazy girl or desperate or whatever else. The truth is that there is no other way. We cannot choose to erase someone from our minds. They are there as long as they are there and there is very little we can do about it. We can’t control when we will stop thinking about them, and that’s okay, it will happen naturally — our bodies and our minds know the best timing anyways.
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