Simple key to a happier relationship - You should see this now!

Simple key to a happier relationship: It's not rocket science. I often receive emails or Facebook messages from readers, not all of which I have the time to answer. I do my best to read through them though, and one stuck out to me in the past. It was from a female reader who wanted input on her relationship.

More.. Beautiful photos of Tonto Dikeh’s marriage introduction & yes she’s pregnant! 10 famous athletes nudes that got leaked (With Pictures) Top 10 Nigerian celebrities who were born rich (With Pictures) 10 things you should never say to a guy during sex. <img class=" wp-image-59811 aligncenter" src="http://theinfong.com/wp-content/uploads/jesussonforever/11/How-to-better-a-relationship-All-you-need-to-do-now-love-sex-relationship-man-woman-boy-girl-article-TheInfoNG.com-Paulinus-Okodugha-650x408.png" alt="How to better a relationship - All you need to do now! - love, sex, relationship, man, woman, boy, girl, article, TheInfoNG.com- Paulinus Okodugha-650x408" width="505" height="317" /> One of the lines in the message said, "I think at some point I want what every other girl wants: A boyfriend that makes her feel like she matters."

At some point? At some point? As if to imply that up until that elusive "some point," whenever that may be, it's acceptable to have a boyfriend who doesn't make you feel like you matter?

No. Just ... no. The very foundation of a relationship is love. Appreciation. Respect. Trust. Affection. All of which need to be mutual and all of which make someone feel like they matter.

If you're not receiving these things in your relationship, why are you in the relationship in the first place?

Think about how you acted in the beginning of your relationship. Do you still do the same small things you were doing then? If not, why not?

The small things you do in a relationship are quite often actually the big things, because they show you're willing to put in effort for your teammate for no reason other than that you care and want to make them happy.

No holiday or special occasion required. You don't need a date on a calendar to show your love. You just need, well, the love.

Or, a happier relationship. Take the time during every single day to do something small to show your partner you care about and appreciate them.

Lives get busy, days get hectic, but that consistent effort is what keeps your relationship a solid battering ram of life.

The two of you together, busting through all the challenges you face. Happy relationships don't just continue on their own without any work.

It doesn't have to be big things. It takes less than 30 seconds to send a text that will make her smile. Have a busy day planned? Send an early text — a good morning text doesn't just say, "Good morning;" it says, "You're the first thought I had when I woke up today."

It takes no money to kiss her in the middle of her sentence. Do you still reach for her hand or put your arm around her while you're walking? If not, why not?

I want to make it clear: both men and women have this responsibility. If someone isn't meeting your standards for how you want to be treated in a relationship, you need to speak up and make your feelings known. Why would you stay with someone who isn't what you want?

You may not even realize it, but being neutral and generally apathetic in a relationship can be hurtful. It may not be on purpose, but not feeling wanted can often be the same as feeling unwanted.

Hold higher standards for yourself. If someone is great in the first few months of your relationship, but slowly stops doing what you loved about them, they haven't changed; they've just revealed themselves to you.

If you don't put in the effort to make your partner feel special every day, you lose your right to complain when someone else does. Life is too short to waste your time with people who don't appreciate you.

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James Michael Sama is an award-winning Boston based blogger on the topics of dating and relationships, having amassed over 30 million readers in just a year and a half. He writes and speaks on the topics of chivalry, romance, and happiness throughout the country and has been featured repeatedly in news segments, talk shows, and mainstream radio.

-Yourtango

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