8. Try This Thing I Saw in a Porn

“Especially among younger men, porn gives this false sense that that’s what sex can or should look like,” says Ken Solin, dating expert and author of the forthcoming book Boomer Guide to Finding Love Online. He feels porn is actually poisoning sexual relationships. But talking about fantasies — without necessarily acting on them — can still be helpful. “Talk about sex and what it is that you want, what you need, and what you’re willing to give,” Solin says. “If you have a deep emotional bond, there’s not a lot that isn’t sexually viable.”