7. Unexplained Absences
What you need to know about each other’s lives depends on the stage of relationship you’re in. As you progress in your relationship, it’s only reasonable to know where each other is and when you’ll next see each other. If someone doesn’t keep their word to, let’s say, show up for a dinner date, that should immediately raise a red flag. And even if they text you, and give a good reason for their absence, but NOT propose a “Plan B”, then watch out.
Maybe you’re further along in your relationship, perhaps living together, and you are the one missing spending time with her, while she’s out for instance in social situations with her girlfriends. Then a late night, turns into another late night as you wait for her at home. It’s time for some communication. If the behavior continues, it then becomes time for you to make a decision. She’s not showing you respect as a person, and she’s placing herself in social situations, for instance, where there are regularly 1) other men, and 2) alcohol. As you probably know, it’s a potent combination.
Bottom line? There comes a point in a relationship where you just naturally know where the other is. If you’re at that point, and you don’t know where she is, it’s probably time to move on unless you want to live a life not knowing where your partner is. If you do, then maybe you should date a secret service agent.
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