38. When you first see each other at the end of your respective days, before you do anything else, hold each other without speaking for at least 60 seconds.
By doing so you remind each other’s old/reptilian brains that you are a source of pleasure and comfort. It’s simple, it’s easy to do, and it will make a world of difference. – Laura Marshall, LCSW
39. Preface important communication with a simple yet effective introduction.
Try: “Honey, I’m confused about your response to my plans for a weekend hunting trip with the guys. When would be a good time to talk further?” My relationship coaching clients have found that prefacing their remarks encourages a better, more accommodating reaction from their partner. – Greg R. Thiel, MA
40. On those ever-important date nights, remember to be a wife first and a critic second.
Every time you open your mouth to complain about something — whether it’s the food, the service, the movie, the weather, whatever — some part of your partner feels he’s failing because you aren’t having a great time. Men are happiest when they can please their woman! Save the full critique for your girlfriends and in meantime, let him see the best in you. – Delaine Moore, Dating and Relationship Coach
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