3. He needs to feel emotionally safe
The third thing to keep in mind when learning how to keep your man happy is his emotional health. By surrendering your anger, bitterness, or any resentment you have toward him, you give him safe passage to be vulnerable.
This happens through you trusting him. And then, he can trust you. You both allow yourself to be vulnerable and that helps a relationship work. But for this vulnerability to take off, women typically must be the initiators. Men are looking for someone to lead them into the vulnerable abyss.
It is a woman’s courage to open up and let down her guard that inspires men to lay down their psychological shields and relax.
So how do you do this? Well, it helps by learning how men think. He has to know that you won’t judge or criticize him. He needs to feel supported, accepted, and encouraged that you are on his side. He needs to know that you won’t tell your friends or (worse) your mother about any mistakes he makes. He needs to know that you’ll stand up for him when others say bad things about him. He needs to know that you’ll confront any injustices or problems head on.
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