2. They explore their fantasy options.
But what if you don’t know what you’re into yet? Or what if you want to find a sexually compatible fantasy that works for both of you?
It can be scary initiating this kind of discussion. Fortunately, there are some smart ways to make the process easier.
If you don’t know where to begin, you should definitely try out a subscription service like The Fantasy Box, which provides monthly sexual fantasies for couples.
The Fantasy Box doesn’t just provide a grab-bag of toys and costumes. In addition to a selection of sexy gear, each one comes with a set of what they call “role cards” — not instructions, as much as a script that sets the scene, hands out some simple responsibilities for both players, and most importantly, puts both of them on the same page going into the adventure, eliminating all anxiety. (They have exciting holiday-themed boxes too!)
You get a card, your partner gets a card, and the instructions help choreograph your movements, allowing you to initiate the fantasy and walkthrough it step-by-step. The Fantasy Box allows you to jump out of your comfort zone and explore new fantasies without having to make everything up one your own or feel self-conscious about being the “creator” of the fantasy in question.
Just don’t put all the pressure on yourself to come up with the perfect fantasy. Take advantage of the resources out there that can help.
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