What couples who are killing it in the bedroom do… (That You Don’t)

3. They allow themselves to laugh.

This step is so important. Revealing your sexual fantasies can make you feel extremely vulnerable, and what’s one of the most common responses when we feel nervous or unsure of ourselves? We LAUGH.

If you’re acting out a fantasy with a partner, you have to recognize that you’re occasionally going to break character, screw something up, or, yes, even giggle. But this kind of laughter isn’t derisive — it’s a sign that you’re actually having fun.

There’s nothing wrong with taking your sexual fantasy seriously, but you don’t want to take it too seriously. Remember to enjoy yourself first and foremost.