4. They learn and adapt.
Communication might be the key to developing an active and fulfilling sex life, but it shouldn’t end once you say “I want to try something different in the bedroom.”
When you’re exploring sexual fantasies, it’s a smart idea to keep up an ongoing conversation about what’s working and what’s not. Because you might finally try that shower fantasy you’ve dreamt about since college, only to realize that there are certain aspects you LOVED and others you didn’t. That doesn’t mean that you failed, it just means you’re learning.
This is another reason why services like The Fantasy Box can really help couples assess what they’re looking for in a sexual fantasy. For example, if you’ve always dreamed about incorporating toys or costumes into your dream scenarios, these services provide you with instructions that allow you to confidently use those props in the best ways possible (and without having to sit there wondering “What am I supposed to do with this?”).
That way, you and your partner can actually ask yourselves critically “Are we a couple who likes using toys? Or tying each other up? Or wearing lederhosen?” and not have to worry that you didn’t know what you were doing in the moment.
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