3 Do you have feelings for your ex? Discussing past relationships can be very telling and important for you and your lover, but a question like this comes off as more of an accusation. And that is neither fair nor useful for the two of you.
Questions like this make you seem jealous, unsure, and untrusting. Bringing up something like this immediately sets off someone’s defences and makes them feel like their loyalty is being taken into question.
The best questions to ask your lover
Now that we touched on some questions to ask your lover that you may want to avoid, here are the ones that are totally appropriate, helpful, and maybe even necessary for some.
1 What do you like – This might seem pretty basic, but we sometimes forget to ask the person we spend time with what they like. You may know somethings, but it never hurts to learn more about your lover.
There is always more to know. And this is in regards to their hobbies, their taste, and their sexual preferences.
What you don’t like – This may be even more important than the last. Knowing the things that someone doesn’t like is crucial for you to know what you should avoid with your lover.
Doing something to make them uncomfortable, even unintentionally could really throw things array.
2 What are you willing to try or not try? When it comes to being spontaneous with travel or in the bedroom, knowing what the limits are is important. You always want to be on the same page and expressing how far you are willing to go is vital.
Be sure that when you ask your lover about what they are willing to do, share your answer too.
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