Stop cyberstalking. All kinds of studies have shown that continuing to cyberstalk your ex or your unrequited crushthrough social media will only prolong your agony. And yet it’s so easy to do — we can’t seem to help ourselves. We actually get addicted to the chemical rush of the pain of seeing him with a new woman or out on the town enjoying himself.
But you don’t know what you are really seeing. He might post a picture of himself and his new honey looking ecstatic at a concert, but you didn’t see the huge argument they got into right before they left. AsAmi Angelowicz writes inThe Frisky: “Social media is like a funhouse. It warps everything, makes it giant or small or headless, unrecognizable, most notably, your sense of self and of reality. It takes your imagination on a wild tilt-a-whirl of imagined scenarios and possibilities. It’s a warped mirror, reflecting your worst fears and deepest insecurities.”
In one relationship, I became addicted to checking up on the various women I knew the object of my affection had dated in the past. As the years went by, I gradually saw all of them get married and have children. While I had been eagle-eyeing them to see if they were keeping in touch with the man I wanted, the truth was, they didn’t want him.They had gotten on with their lives, while I hadn’t. I really wish I could have that time back!
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