You don’t want to change her
One of the biggest misconceptions men and women have at the beginning of a new relationship is that love can erase the differences and heighten the compatibility over time.
Love can help both of you change and become more compatible, but only by a small extent. If you’re wondering if she’s the one for you, the happy signs have to scream out right at the beginning.
“I love her but I wish she’d stop picking a fight so often”, or a “she’s so perfect for me, I just wish she’d stop flirting with other guys all the time though…” is never a good start. Perhaps, she isn’t really right for you. You should know that no woman is ever a bad lover even if she’s been single or in a string of bad relationships for a while. It’s just a sign that she hasn’t met someone compatible yet. What makes you nervous about a woman may make some other guy really happy.
If you want to be happy in love and have a successful relationship with a woman, you need to really know deep inside that you don’t want to change anything about her. And the next time Bruno Mars sings ‘just the way you are’, there should be just one person you can think of.
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