Simple steps to start a relationship with a NEW girlfriend

#7: Even If She’s Perfect… Keep Your Options Open

We’ve discussed this before on here, but women – even women in committed relationships – have men approaching them all the time, and have options with men at all times because of that. Most men – even very attractive ones – don’t get approached by women much, if at all, and thus, when they enter into committed relationships and stop meeting new women, their abundance mindsets gradually recede, and their confidence in their abilities to find a replacement partner or partners for their current girl gradually disappear.

The relationship is led by the partner who is more confident of being able to find an equal or better replacement partner; if that’s you, you’ll be in charge, you’ll be happy, and, provided you’re taking good care of her in the relationship, so will your woman be. If it’s her though, she’ll become disinterested and somewhat disgusted at dating a weaker man.

As relationships progress, a power shift generally takes place as the man loses certainty in his ability to find a replacement partner, and the woman’s remains steady. It isn’t the woman who changes here; it’s the man. But the woman’s attitude toward the man changes as he does: she begins to respect him less, and tests him for weakness and pushes the limits with him more.

As soon as the woman in your life knows that you CAN’T leave her, but she CAN leave you, your goose is cooked.

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She can order you around or be rude to you, and there’s nothing you can do about it.

She can treat you like a second-rate citizen, and there’s nothing you can do about it.

She can cheat on you with a manlier man, and there’s nothing you can do about it.

You need to keep your options open, enough so that you maintain an abundance mindset. There are several ways of going about this, including:

Actually dating and sleeping with other women (of quality equal to or superior to your girlfriend’s, optimally)
Continuing to pick up and bring interactions close to sex, but aborting the pick up just before you’d have sex with the girl (enough so that you constantly reassure yourself that yes, you have the ability, whenever and wherever you want it)
Having some other place you want to move to in the world that will give you a fresh start with women you’d like to date (e.g., NOT the same city where you live with her now). This might be another city with women you’ve always wanted to date (California girls if you live on the East Coast of the U.S., for instance, or Melbourne girls if you’re living in Sydney), or it might be another part of the world (scintillating Latinas, pouty Eastern European girls, cute Asian girls, sultry African girls).Why not your own city? Because after too long of not meeting new women in your city, your mind begins to assume that you’ve got the best girl you’re going to find in that town. It isn’t right, of course; but it doesn’t know that, and it won’t believe you if you try to tell it that. So thinking that you’re going to date other girls in town doesn’t help with having an abundance mindset when you need it; you need to be thinking somewhere else… a new adventure, with lusty new women. And it needs to be somewhere with some women you’re excited about.

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If you’re able to keep your options open, you’ll retain your ability to walk away, which paradoxically makes you better able to maintain strength and thus attraction and respect inside your relationships.

Being able to leave means you’re better able to stay, and better able to keep things healthy and strong.

Starting Off on the Right Foot

This stuff isn’t easy, but it’s not the hardest in the world to do, either.Essentially, you’ve just got to be able to say, “I know I want this emotionally right now, but I need to do this instead so that I and my girl will be happier tomorrow.”

Then do these:

Act Slightly Warmer After First Sex, But Otherwise the Same
Text a Girl Something Pleasant 3 to 6 Hours After First Sex
Don’t See Her Too Often, at Least at First
Know Your Purpose for the Relationship
Don’t Frontload the Excitement in the Relationship
Date the Right Girl
Even If She’s Perfect… Keep Your Options Open

They’ll allow you to start a relationship out strongly, and set it up for continued success, and a very rewarding experience. All you need to do is plan for the future a little bit, and be a bit more ant than you are grasshopper.

If you’re able to follow these tips, you’ll have many happy relationships to come – or maybe just one, and it simply won’t end. If that’s what you want, of course!

–Girls Chase

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