Reason 1
Incompatibility
Find the lifestyle, post-marriage, tough to digest Says SHRADDHA DALVI, Advocate, High Court
Couples are marrying sooner, and calling it quits, fairly early too. No children means the decision is easier to take.Financial independence on both ends help them make up their minds quickly. A marriage requires both, patience and compromise. `Incompatibility’, or what we see as the ability to adapt, is a top reason for seeking divorce. It’s nothing but both partners sticking to their guns as far as key decisions regarding career and in-laws go. This is where the ego creeps in.Partnership, which marriage is, seems impossible for them to pull off.
Remedy
Clinical psychologist Sonali Gupta says: This is precisely why pre-marital counselling is a good idea for all couples, irrespective of how long they may have dated. It’s what helps highlight details that we overlook, but could be the basis for conflict later. We often tell couples to list out how their lives will change after marriage. This highlights the trivial stuff, like placing a wet towel on the bed after a shower, instead of to dry, or having to adjust to not having domestic help, which may all be triggers for frustration later.
A common problem among partners in the first year of marriage is the take-for-granted danger. They assume that living together accounts for couple time, which is a misnomer. They need to consciously strike a balance between planning shared leisure time, which allows for bonding, and me time, which offers space. Build a parallel support system, so that you also have a friend or sibling to reach out to when you wish to vent. This way, you won’t be offloading worries on your partner when the two of you meet at the end of the day.
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