STOP doing these 6 things, if you want your relationship to last!

If you want your relationship to last - Yes, so you wishing for a long lasting relationship and you are not ready to sacrifice or go through what it takes to achieve it?? You must be the biggest joker alive! If you want your relationship to last you must stop doing these... 1. Quit thinking it WON’T last. Going into a relationship thinking it’s doomed means only one thing — it is. Every time things aren’t perfect you’ll feel validated. “ See? I knew it. We didn’t have a chance .” If you honestly believe relationships will never stand the test of time then the reality is you will sabotage each one to ensure that you are right. You will test each partner to see how much of your bad behavior they can tolerate before finally leaving you as you yell, “I knew you’d never stay” to a slamming door. If this is you — don’t date until you’ve figured this out. Navigate using arrows below 2. Quit playing games. You’re mad. Or sad. Or hurt. Your partner asks, “What’s wrong?” And you say, “nothing.” Or yell about something else entirely later that evening. Stupid, childish, relationship-killing games. 7 Sex positions men seriously can't get enough of..

Eventually people keep score. Get even. Withdraw affection. Stop trying to even find an answer. Instead? Talk to each other! Explain. Listen. Find a solution. Take hurt and anger out of the equation because they are two of the most manipulative, reactive, and dangerous emotions to use while trying to communicate respectfully. 3. Quit thinking love is enough. In the long run, couples who make it through the good and bad still caring for each other have more going for them than just love. They truly LIKE their partner too. Liking can get you through a lot. Love is about attraction. Commitment. Attachment. But liking is about the joy. Respect. Fun. And contentment. If you can look at your partner and say you genuinely LIKE them. Want to be with them. Can talk to them. Can be FRIENDS with them — then you’ve got something to hold on to. SEE ALSO: 9 Deadly mistakes women make in relationships - See this now!

4. Quit being jealous. If they truly can’t be trusted — then why would you date them in the first place? And if they are trustworthy but you have a problem because of past betrayals, then get your own act together before you demolish someone else’s self-esteem with your insecurities and baggage. SEE ALSO: How to keep your phone from ruining your relationships..

The flip side? If you find yourself in a relationship where the other person is jealous and you are doing nothing to warrant it? Walk away fast. Jealousy is NOT a sign of love. It’s possessive and demeaning. Long lasting relationships are anchored in trust. 5. Quit settling for less than you want. Relationships are based on equal balances of power. Meaning each brings some strengths to the table that the other one doesn’t have. SEE ALSO: 10 Signs she's truly in love with you

When you accept someone who doesn’t meet (or even come close) to what you want — you’re settling. And settling never made anyone happy long term. Successful couples last because they both respect the value and worth of the other. 6. Quit thinking you need someone else in order to be happy. Go about your life. Stop waiting. Make friends. Be outstanding at work. Travel. Get in shape. Eat healthy. Be happy. The kind of person you are looking for doesn’t want an unhappy, miserable, lonely or desperate partner. The more you take care of yourself and become self-fulfilled the more people will want to be with you. Love you. Stay with you. It’s time to QUIT some behaviors that create dysfunctional partnerships and start attracting people who love you and want to be with you for all the right reasons. by Connie Podesta for YourTango CLICK HERE to join our BBM Channel for faster updates TOP POSTS YESTERDAY 12 Rappers who surprisingly don’t do drugs (With Pictures) 7 Sex positions men seriously can’t get enough of.. 10 Football players who are notorious womanizers (With Pictures) All Don Jazzy’s cars and the cost of each of them (See Photos) Top 5 best dressed Nollywood actresses in recent times – See who’s number 1! (With Pictures) 9 awkward photos of Nigerian celebrities that will make you shiver – This will shock you! I found an iPhone on the ground and what I found in its photo gallery terrified me.. Top 10 Nigerian and Ghanaian actresses with killer curves & butts (+Photos) The effects of taking marijuana – What you never knew (Must See) Top 10 most beautiful presidential palaces in Africa (With Pictures) You’re local Igbo men – Fan insults P Square after doing this… (Look) Newly engaged Nigerian actress, Lilian Esoro embarrassed in Lagos- See what happened!

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