20. You aren’t yourself around him.
If you have to hide who you are in any capacity in exchange for his affection, he’s not for you.
21. He’s afraid to be loved.
You’re showing them the best and most tender parts of you, and they’re getting scared sh*tless. The more you love, the more they freak out. Pull back and they come closer. This push and pull dynamic is utterly heartbreaking for those who are actually invested, and as much as you give it will always be received with a side eye. We need to love ourselves in order to be able to accept love and our partners must do this as well.
22. He’s in denial about issues that impact your relationship.
There’s a problem. It’s correctable or at least manageable, if only they would admit it long enough to get help for it. You’re happy to be there for them if they work through it, but they just can’t face it. On the flip side, if you’re constantly hearing the same things from people who love you in your life, you might want to take note. There’s no shame in having something to work on, but knowing and choosing to look the other way is not going to do your relationships any favors.
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