Questions you MUST ask yourself when you are crushing on someone

Crushing on someone: Everyone has experienced a crush in their life. Maybe it’s someone you work with or a friend’s girlfriend. Maybe a TV anchorman or a local librarian who just looks amazing hot when they put their glasses on. Regardless of who the person is (or why you’re into them), we’ve all had that moment where we look at someone from afar and think “WOW.” Crushes make our hearts race, our palms sweat. They consume our internal fantasy lives with sexy “what if” scenarios that we can barely control.

But are crushes healthy?

Normally, they’re fairly innocent. But you do need to keep an eye on them.

If you find yourself spending a significant portion of your day thinking about the other person or engineering opportunities to interact with them, you might be crossing a line, particularly if you KNOW there’s a reason why you’re admiring your crush from a distance. For instance, you might be married, they might be in a relationship, or one of you is in a position of authority over the other. 

And that’s where, sometimes, a crush can turn into something totally different — a pre-occupation that distracts you from the REAL people you love in your life. 

If you’re concerned that you might have an unhealthy fixation on your crush, here are 4 simple yet revealing questions that will definitely help you come to terms with how you REALLY feel about them.

1. What is it EXACTLY that’s making you crush so hard?

This can be a hard thing to narrow down. If it’s a physical aspect, you have to remind yourself, “This is not the only person with rock-hard abs/an ass that won’t quit.” Physical crushes are fun eye-candy, but they’re normally inch-deep emotionally. They just appeal to you on an aesthetic level.

But emotional crushes are insidious things. Why are you feeling such an attraction to this random person at work or that barista at Starbucks? If you’re feeling inexplicably drawn to a person, you need to try to explain it to yourself before you move forward.

Are they filling a psychological need for approval?