Questions you MUST ask yourself when you are crushing on someone

Are they providing you with a never-before-experienced sexual thrill?

Or are you legitimately falling for them? You need to ask yourself the hard questions ASAP because the answers will tell you a lot about whether or not your crush is actually healthy for you.

2. What qualities make this a crush and not a relationship?

“Crush” is a pretty loaded word. It’s normally used to describe a situation where you’re attracted to someone but they don’t know it. And there can be MANY reasons why these one-sided attractions crop up.

So you need to ask yourself — why have I given this the “crush” label?

If it’s a “crush” because the other person is completely inappropriate for you — a friend’s spouse, a co-worker in a sensitive position, someone who is too young for you — yeah, keep your distance.

That’s a bad kind of crush.

You need to recognize it as a self-destructive urge and move on.

If it’s a “crush” because the other person seems like they belong in a different world than you — she’s rich, you’re poor / she’s a punk, you’re an accountant — that doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t pursue it.

Often times, we crush on people who are wildly different than us because we’re just too afraid to step out of our normal sphere of existence and try something new. But that shouldn’t be an obstacle for romance.

If it’s a “crush” simply because you’re too afraid to do anything about it — the other person is appropriately aged, you know them, you’re not already in a relationship — toss out that “crush” label and just start thinking of that person as the next person you’re going to ask out.

Remember… nothing ventured, nothing gained.