Why Love is not enough in a relationship (READ)

Love is not enough: Lets start this amazing topic with the beautiful definition of love. What is love? What do you really think love is? How does love make you feel? What are the strange things love makes you do? How beautiful is love? The ancient Greeks called love “the madness of the gods.” Modern psychologists define it as it the strong desire for emotional union with another person. But what, actually, is love. It means so many different things to different people. Songwriters have described it, “Whenever you’re near, I hear a symphony.” Shakespeare said, “Love is blind and lovers cannot see.” Aristotle said, “Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies.” More.. 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And the most common one, do you think of a man who has become addicted to one night stands despite the fact that his beautiful wife, that he actually “loves” lays awake every night to return home; LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH. Click Next To Continue >>> Every example above perfectly depicts relationships that started with love as their foundation but the love was not enough to see them through. The human nature is built to be self serving, its not that we do not have the capacity to be selfless but often times where we have been, things we have seen and heard and those we allow to affect us end up molding us to be who we are. Love is not enough. Love in the actual sense of the word should be enough to make a relationship last for a life time but we are human. And we are influenced by other factors like environmental and psychological background; a child that grew up watching one of his or her parent emotionally or physically abusing the other, if not taking through proper process of recovery will find it difficult to maintain a stable adult relationship. A person like this might find it easy to fall in love, might even be a very sweet loveable person but dues to his or her upbringing he or she might find it difficult to stay in a relationship unless such a person lucky enough to find a person that is selfless and understanding to make he or she find healing. Now, from the above analogy its obvious that finding love is not the problem, being in love is not the problem but staying in the relationship.( it means you can be in love and watch the relationship fall apart). Factors That Limits Love Love according to the pure definition from all the holy books and from all the renowned writers is a force that is strong enough to hold two people together for a life time despite all odds despite all errs. Love does not equal capability Everyone has different maturity, and matches of maturity is important to having a good relationship. Basically, maturity is a set of views and beliefs on things. They can be categorized into personal values, phylosphies of life, and world view which are personal level, social level, and worldwide level respectively. If you two have different maturity, it’s hard to reach to mutual acceptance sometimes. Therefore, all three levels are important in your relationships. Knowledge and beliefs about love is categorize into personal level.hen you lack of knowledge about love, it’s easily to be caught up in her drama and selfishness. Most guys will treat women as nice as them can just want to satisfy her desire. Eventually, your woman will be tired of you because you are not a challenge to her anymore. Women secretly crave for the challenges to get a man she likes to like her back. When you are not a challenge to her anymore, her attraction for you will fade out very soon. Gradually, she doesn’t follow those unspoken expectations and this is leading into confusion, disillusionment, and disappointment. Eventually, your relationships are full with anger, hatred and bitterness. Undoubtedly this is harmful to your relationships. When you two have too much difference of maturity, that means you two are not compatible currently. It’s love that brings you two to be together, but it’s also love separates you two, because when you and her are not compatible, being together is merely continually harm each other. Pride Relationship with a proud person or a person that finds it hard to accept their wrong usually has some bombs aling the way. It is important for both partners to not that it is not a competition and they are on the same side. So pride should never get in the way of a proper apology when you are wrong. Love Should Make You Better A healthy love should make you two better and happier than before when both of you are single. You will naturally want to improve yourself, and the reason is obvious, because you love her. Your woman should make you better as an individual. If the love between you and her is not happy and this keeps for a long time, perhaps you need to rethink carefully about your love. However, first and foremost, we have to love ourselves before we love others. Love is not something that need to compromise our passions and dreams. We need to conserve resources in order to share the resources with others. If you don’t love yourself, how could you love others? Simple question. Therefore, please not forgetting (or compromising) who you are when you are in love. You still have your dream life, your goals, your mission in life, your business, etc. Think carefully, is love all you need? When your world is all of her, you tend to be overly nice to her, and your emotions are very sensitive to her every action. In other words, you tend to turn into a wuss when you lost yourself. That’s why people told you if you want to be successful with women you have to be yourself.The insecurities, neediness and co-dependence will completely kill your attraction to her and there’s almost no way to win her back if the attraction is gone. Remember, love should make you better, love yourself before you love others. Real Love Doesn’t Need A Return My personal take on love is that a real love doesn’t need a return. Love is not doing a business. We should not measure how much love that we give to her and how much of her love will return. Many people want to confess their love is because they want to know how much is the chance they have to be with her. Is it worthy to treat her nice? Is it worthy to give efforts into the relationship? This makes love seem very utilitarianism. Attraction is not a choice. You love her with your heart. Your heart feels she’s the kind of woman you like. When you measure the ROI of your love, the romance quality decreases, obviously. A real love doesn’t need a return, which means that not to expect anything in return! CLICK HERE to join our BBM Channel for juicy updates & free giveaways.

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