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12 ways to bring the sexy back to your relationship - The couples that play together, stay together. Whether you've been together for one year, or for 10, sometimes even the steamiest of relationships can start to feel a bit stale. With the new year here, this is a great time to kick things up a notch. Add the sexy back into your fun by trying something new—and get as wild as you dare. More.. 5 facts about male masturbation that will shock you and make you quit it now! 18 ways to keep your long term relationship sizzling Meet the father of Nadia Buari’s twin babies (+Photo) Popular Nigerian female singer caught pants down, making love with husband’s billionaire friend Maybe it's writing a dirty story and sending it to your partner or putting together a sexy scavenger hunt to make things hot and heavy again. There's even a subscription service that discreetly delivers fun and flirty romantic surprises to your door. And sometimes, the best way to get sexy is as easy as simply relaxing. Because of media influence, many of us have an exaggerated, stressful image of sex , say Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D., psychotherapist and author of Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting about the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage . To have more fun, focus on having fun, instead of meeting a goal. Some sex encounters go well, some don't, so have a sense of humor. Spend more time giggling, talking and being silly and less time under pressure. A lighter attitude makes sex more fun. And who doesn't want that? See our list of 12 ways to bring back the sexy in your relationship. 1. Up The Kinky Upping the kink factor in your relationship can actually be a great way for those of us who are more vanilla to break out of shells and experiment with something new. It can also be a way of feeling closer to our partner. "This being said, there may be behaviors that you are just not open to doing and that is OK too," says Dr. Kat Van Kirk, a clinical sexologist, marriage and family therapist, author and host. Partners should have enough sensitivity to work you into these behaviors as well as be ok with some hard and fast boundaries. Many people into kink have learned to be very good negotiators sexually as very few people have exactly the same proclivities. CLICK ON PAGES BELOW TO SEE THE REST

2. Relax Relaxing allows you to be more aware of your sexual energy, enhances sexual feelings, and frees you up to respond sexually, says Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D., psychotherapist and author of Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting about the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage . For example, allow time for morning sex when you are still relaxed from sleep, or after a nap. Save some water by showering together sometimes and let nature take its course. Maybe summon up your teenage hormones and try some naughty petting in the backseat of your care after date night. Whatever you do, just go with what feels natural, and make sure to have fun. That's what great sex is all about. CLICK ON PAGES BELOW TO SEE THE REST

3. Write A Dirty Story Many men get off on porn, ladies on erotica—but we all love a bit of scintillation. Make it more personal with a service like Hoochy Mail Service, suggests Denise Beauregard, owner ofUrban Intima Inc., an online intimate apparel retailer. Hoochy mail is a free online erotic mail service that allows users to customize erotic stories written by the sender to the recipient. They can be romantic, sexy, or off the wall. If you were to send this to your significant other (his personal email only please, no need to peak an employers' curiosity) well, let's just day this move can make a man come straight the hell home. CLICK ON PAGES BELOW TO SEE THE REST

4. Sexy Surprises Most occasions, we send flowers, candy, maybe a teddy bear. Kick things up a notch with a delivery like Spicy Subscriptions, which discreetly delivers fun and flirty romantic surprises to your door. Every month you’ll be treated to romantic gifts, fun toys, massage oils, lingerie and more, which you can then "try out" together! CLICK ON PAGES BELOW TO SEE THE REST

5. Communicate The best beginning for a lovely sexual encounter is a good, honest and open conversation, says Tessina. When you were new lovers, you talked and sex was easy. Frequently make time to "catch up" with each other over an unhurried dinner or breakfast. Express your hopes and dreams, clear the air, and you can both relax. From there, it's not such a long distance into the bedroom. CLICK ON PAGES BELOW TO SEE THE REST

6. Sexy Scavenger Hunt Select 12 items to hide around the house unbeknownst to one another and write out your clues. As each one of you find a clue you take a roll of the dice and do the roll, says Beauregard. The possibility of 24 acts of love and lust minimum, what thrill and this does not take into account any of the main events. CLICK ON PAGES BELOW TO SEE THE REST

7. Be Flexible Physical agility can be helpful, but emotional flexibility will really improve your sex life, says Tessina. The longer you and your partner are together, the more you need options. Quickies are great fun when you're pressed for time, and morning hanky panky can make the whole day more exciting. Take things up a notch with a touch of role-play, says Tessina. Act out all the silly, forbidden or exciting fantasies like nurse and patient (or doctor), children "playing house", famous movie star and adoring fan, or your two favorite characters from a soap opera, novel or movie. If you feel a little silly, laughter will only make it more fun. CLICK ON PAGES BELOW TO SEE THE REST

8. The Key Is Give & Take Open a dialogue about what really turns the both of you on and don't do it while you are in the middle of having sex. Be honest about what scares you and why. Lots of people who think of BDSM assume that it's all whips and chains but in actuality there are a whole spectrum of behaviors from mild spanking to light bondage with silk ties. "It is both partners' responsibility to be gentle and really know what they are doing; while remain opening and communicating their needs. For instance, most people in the kink community know that it is the "bottom" or the person having things done to them that is actually in control of the play," says Dr. Kat. CLICK ON PAGES BELOW TO SEE THE REST

9. Evaluate The Situation If you removed all of the negative self-talk from your head, are there situations that titillate you, even a little? Some guys feel the need to get over the idea of feeling threatened by a woman who is kinkier than he is. Some are afraid of being judged by others if they ever found out and some, well they are just not wired that way. "Once you've looked at your fears, I always suggest trying something new. If you don't like it, you can always communicate that. I find that most people don’t know what they are missing though. Once you can learn to open up sexually, often times you feel emotionally more connected as well just by sharing the experience," says Dr. Kat. CLICK ON PAGES BELOW TO SEE THE REST

10. Touch Me If you're thinking "the idea of sex is nice but I’m way too stressed to get there," get your partner an aromatherapy massage candle to slow things down and heat things up, suggests sexologist Emily Morse, host of the podcast Sex with Emily. Just light the candle and let it make a nice pool of warm luxurious massage oil (it's not waxy or hot), then drip it from a foot above those body parts (yours or your partner's) that need special attention. Start massaging the oil into the skin and go from there. You can even use them on my self as a body moisturizer every day. CLICK ON PAGES BELOW TO SEE THE REST

11. Play he couples that play together, stay together. Once you put away the Monopoly set, pull out a sexy board game to get you going and get you in the mood, says Dr. Morse. Try the Love or Lust board game, if you want some flirty fun or the Bondage Seductions Game if you've been wanted to kink things up. -YourTango CLICK HERE to join our BBM Channel for faster updates TOP POSTS YESTERDAY The spot your woman wants you to hit to make her climax Chris Brown’s baby mama, Nia Gonzalez’ nude pics go viral online 8 deep signs that show he only wants sex from you (Must See) Finally! Kim Kardashian officially dumps Kanye West – See what happened! 5 sexy texts to get him HOT! Ladies! These are 10 common lies men love telling to you – It’s time you stop falling for them! List of top 10 richest pastors in the world & their worth – See the 5 Nigerian pastors in it.. Exclusive: Ini Edo finally tells the World why she divorced her husband – Is it worth it?? Breaking: Davido impregnates popular Abuja runs girl (See Photos) See the man with the longest manhood in the world (Photos)

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