Reason 4
Role confusion
Men are looking for cultural stereotypes; women, to break free from them Says PERSIS SIDHVA, advocate with an NGO
While mod ern soci etal norms say men to root for equal status, often, they (even the educated) continue to seek stereotypical qualities in their partners.Meanwhile, women are hoping to break free from the very same cultural stereotypes. Here lies the conflict. We’ve come across women who have been subjected to mental and emotional violence in educated homes. An educated partner, may or may not hit, but he can certainly assert his power over her by curbing her freedom to work, study, meet friends, etc.
Remedy
Sonali says: This is a tricky one. The most common playout of this conflict is a fight over who will manage household chores. Initially, a woman may not mind manning the home single-handedly at first.But as she grows in her career, and her responsibilities (kids) double, she expects the man to pitch in. When he doesn’t, there are sparks. In an ideal situation, a couple must function as a team.Take turns, and divide the work.Putting together a simple dish when she has had a long day must come naturally to the man, and not seem like a favour. If inlaws object to the practice, speak to them as a team. Don’t lose the `we’ when presenting a joint front
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