#3 Be strict in a polite manner. Once you set your boundaries, make sure you enforce them, and this means that if you don’t want your in-laws to drop in “at their convenience,” make sure you ask them to call you first before they visit. If they don’t call you and they knock your door, don’t open it. Make it seem like you’re not at home, and that you could have stayed back at home if only they had called.
#4 Communicate to them yourself. If they’ve done something that hurt your feelings, tell that to them in a polite manner yourself. Don’t involve a third party to do the talking for you. Most of the times, we ask our spouses to do the talking, and this needs to stop – you should voice your thoughts yourself so you don’t look like you’re hiding behind your spouse all the time.
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