An important aspect of the ceremony is the reading of a letter from the groom’s family also requesting for the hand of their daughter in marriage. The letter is usually read by a young lady from the bride’s family or a sister of the bride. The family of the bride also responds to the letter with a letter of their own.
During the ceremony, the groom in the company of his friends and peers and brothers in the family will be formally introduced to the family of the bride. Together with all his friends and young men from his family, he will prostrate before the bride’s family directly in front of the bride’ parent or guardian to ask for the hand of their daughter in marriage. Most of these stages as stated earlier involve a collection of charges and fines in cash.
Another integral aspect of the engagement ceremony is the presentation of the dowry from the groom’s family to the bride’s family. The dowry is in a list of items for the engagement that has been sent to the groom’s family months before the engagement day. A dowry is a form of payment to the bride’s family for giving their daughter away to the groom’s family. The dowry varies from family to family but most of the items on the list are generally almost the same. Just little variations and maybe size and quantity. The dowry also includes money.
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