I’m slowly learning that if I keep trying to save everyone else, I’ll lose myself

I am slowly learning that there is only so much I can do to help the people I love and those around me. I have always had a strong desire to help others, and to be validated by them. Whenever anyone has ever been dealing with some kind of issue, I have been prepared to drop everything and rush to their side, providing any comfort, advice, or help I can. I don’t consider this a bad thing by any means- helping others it definitely something this world could stand to see happen more often.

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However, there is always a limit. Because I am one person, and I can only handle so much before I start to crack under the pressure of trying to save everyone within my reach.

I am slowly learning that despite my best efforts when I stretch myself too thin in my attempts to help, I am completely wearing myself down to the bone. That my efforts don’t feel as helpful because they aren’t as completely present as they would be if I was able to pour all of myself into a few things, instead of every single pressing need I see. I am slowly realizing that if I keep doing this, then I will have nothing left to give- and I won’t know what to do with myself.

I am slowly learning that my needs matter, too. That I spend so much time worrying about what everyone else is struggling with, that I rarely take the time to check in on myself- and that’s a dangerous place to be. I am slowly realizing that if I don’t address my own issues and ask for help every once in awhile, that I will burn myself out so intensely that I’m not sure if I could come back from it. I am slowly realizing that it’s okay if I take some time to save myself before I try to save anyone or anything else.

I am slowly learning that although my heart may mostly be pure in intention in wanting to help people, that I also have a desire to be praised and validated by those people when I do help them- it gives me some kind of worth- and that this isn’t exactly a good thing.

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