Deleting your ex from social media, rejecting their calls, and ghosting their messages is the easy answer, but not one we usually follow. Instead of cutting off all contact, just trick yourself into believing you have cut off contact. For those who can’t do this yet, you can:
– Resolve not to be the one to message first.
– Hide the sidebar that shows your ex’s online status.
– Distract yourself every time you want to look at their account.
– Always leave the conversation first if you end up talking to them.
When you see them in person, say hi, ask how they’re doing, then excuse yourself. You may want to talk to them more, but that little bit of time is enough to keep you calm and anxiety-free until you start craving their presence again.
3 Start seeing other people. When I broke up with my ex, it took me a month to convince myself to download Tinder and create an OkCupid account. When I started using it, I started feeling anxious and panicky. I could not stomach the thought of going out with another person, getting to know them, and realizing they are not the one I really wanted.
So, I deleted the app and remained single for a little bit longer. The truth is that was okay. It was not because I did not want to let go of my ex, at the time that was true, but the reason I did not go through with it was because I was not ready. I was not in a position to entertain someone new when I was still in limbo with my feelings for my ex.
So, when did I start seeing someone new? About two months after that happened. At the time, I still thought about my ex, but I accepted the fact these were just residual feelings. I got out there and started dating again. I gradually forgot to check my ex’s Facebook account. I gradually stopped checking to see if he messaged me. I gradually remembered I was single and ready to date someone new. If you don’t believe me, here’s some scientific proof.
The truth is, it worked. It took some time, but we all need some time after a breakup. I only mentioned this advice because lots of people end up hanging on to their ex’s memory way past the three-month mark. I did that once, and it feels like ages ago. It’s not a sad story anymore. It’s actually funny how long it took me to get over an ex that I didn’t really want to spend my life with.
Did these tips help you get over someone? If you haven’t used them yet, are you ready to try something new to help you get over your ex? Tell us in the comments below!
By DANIELLE ANNE, Lovepanky
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