Balancing and giving space in a relationship
If you are in a relationship where both of your needs for intimacy are at different levels, you’ve got some serious balancing to do. Increasing intimacy in the relationship is necessary, but when a man and a woman come together in a relationship and start a life together, they give up their single lives as they have known it and start a new life where they are no more separate but one in the eyes of everyone, including the law.
During the honeymoon period of a relationship, the couple can insulate themselves from the world and cozy up together. But they have to come back to the real world and deal with their own issues and lives soon. And this time, they have a partner around them all the time.
Moreover, no two people share the same need for togetherness. Neither would they require the same levels or intensity of intimacy. Balancing space in a relationship is an art, as fostering intimacy requires both togetherness as well as separateness.
Knowing how to give space may be extremely difficult, especially at the beginning. But considering the stakes and what you may stand to lose, you should train yourself to become adept at this art. If this is not rightly balanced out, one person becomes uncaring or unemotional and the other person becomes needy or clingy in love.
Being close to each other and spending time is important, but to come closer and become better individuals, you have to understand that relationships need space to grow and bloom.
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