6. Give them genuine compliments: I’m basically very friendly, I smile and laugh a lot, I look at the other in the eye, I tilt my head on the side, I compliment, I touch slightly, I show concern and genuine interest, I make jokes and I tease. I will say that they’re awesome and so interesting, sometimes even call them hot. I’m a girl, and while this works pretty well on guys most of the time, women are oblivious and think I want to be their friend. So yay, I guess I’m too subtle.”
7. Make eye contact: Eye contact is important. Most people are right handed and therefore right eye dominant. So if you just maintain eye contact with their right eye, you don’t worry about bouncing back and forth between the two eyeballs most people have.
8. Believe in yourself: The first step is to believe that you are someone worth knowing and having fun with. If you honestly believe in yourself, the rest flows naturally.
9. Pay attention to their social cues: I look for insanely small social signals that the person is receptive to it. When they are speaking to you, are their hips facing you or are they turning their head a bit to talk to you? Have they touched any part of you while in conversation? Are you the last person they look at when they say goodbye? That kinda stuff. It’s not a written invitation, but the odds that there’s an extra level of comfort there is very possible.
10. Play a little coy: Honestly these days I find the best technique is when to active listen and when to play a little coy. Once you get good at dipping in and out of someone’s focus, you start to notice things. Like when you switch who you’re looking at/speaking to during a conversation in a group. If you changed your focus off someone you’re flirting with, you’ll start to notice them still watching you and sometimes even changing their body language to redraw your attention.
11. Tease them in a nice way: All I do is try to make them laugh and smile either by just joking about something or teasing them. (I know it high school behavior but it works for me.) I didn’t tease them about stuff they would be self conscious about, I wouldn’t say, ‘Nice mole on your next Katherine, haha jk.’ I would tell them ‘Oh that’s a really nice dress, buuut the mannequin I saw last night wore it better.’ Then the jokes would slowly get a little more promiscuous and vulgar and I would take hints from their reactions if I should cool it or if I can keep pushing it. Eventually I got to sleep with them and date some.
12. Stand a little closer to them: As a lady, I get close to them. Like stand a little closer when talking, casually touch their arm, shoulder, whatever. Also initiate conversation, ask the person about themselves, show genuine interest in them as a person.
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