8. Using dates to vent about their previous relationships.
Anyone who thinks that exes won’t come up on a date is cuckoo bananas. When we’re telling stories about our lives and our pasts, the people we’ve dated are a part of that. Shit’s going to come up. That said, no one wants to hear the storied, sordid history of your previous relationship on a first date. That’s the kind of admission you make after building trust and knowing you can confide in someone who will listen — instead of bombarding someone when they don’t know you yet. A date is an audition for another date, not free therapy. Just because you might be paying for dinner doesn’t mean you’re financing a two-hour emotional dump. When going out with someone, you should make it about the person you’re with, not the people you’ve been with. Two is company. Nine is a baseball team, not a date.
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