Signs you’re the real problem in your relationship – When things start to go south in a relationship, it’s easy to place the blame squarely on your partner’s shoulders. But chances are, you’re not completely blameless. Below, experts share seven signs you’re the problem in your relationship — and how to change your ways ASAP.
1. You’re letting your spouse do all the work.
A good relationship is a partnership of equals. Accordingly, responsibilities should be divided up equally. If you’re allowing your S.O. to do all the heavy lifting (making social plans, initiating sex and taking care of the bills, for example), resentment is bound to build up, said Megan Fleming, a New York City-based psychologist and sex therapist.
“So often, people want their partners to lean in first, but then they don’t show up to the relationships themselves,” she said.
If you think you’re guilty of putting your partner on the back burner, Fleming suggests “giving, sharing, appreciating and learning your partner’s love language“ to prove you’re still invested in the relationship.
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