More importantly, it is advisable that you talk to the parent you are closer to. If it is your mom, talk to her and let her be the one to convince your dad for you. Also, if your dad is the one that you are closer with, then talk to him and let him be the one to convince your mom for you.
2. Make Subtle Threats
Now, I am not telling you to go overboard with the threats but if the first step doesn’t work, be ready to throw in some threats. Tell them something like “I am not going to get married if I do not get married to this person” or something like “If you do not accept my relationship, then I am going to run away far away to somewhere where you can’t reach me”.
This kind of threat might have more effect on your mother than your father, so direct it to your mom.
3. Get a Religious Cleric to Talk to Them
When the threats don’t work too, the next thing to do is to get a cleric to talk to them on your behalf. If you are a Christian, then get the pastor of the church where your parents worship to talk to them and if you are a Muslim, get the imam of the mosque where your parents worship to talk to them. African parents, especially Nigerian parents are known to have absolute trust and reliance on their religious leaders.
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