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Turning booty call into your boyfriend: For the booty call you think could be bae. Reader Arielle wrote a nice response to the post How Often Do Fuck Buddies Become Girlfriends?, basically outlining the 6 rules of having a fuck buddy who you might want to turn into a partner some day. All of my relationships have been friends with benefits, that have turned into relationships. Twice I’ve gotten my heart broken because the guy was really emotionally damaged, and it didn’t turn into a relationship. More.. Signs your boyfriend really loves you even if he doesn’t say it Top 10 most powerful African passports – #1 takes you everywhere in the world How to stop thinking about someone you still love 20 hilariously weird things you can only see in India – This will crack you up (With Pictures) My recommendations:

1. Go with the flow.

Don’t try to control the direction of everything, and be wary if he’s trying to control it. If he’s trying to set arbitrary rules or limit how much he sees you or the situations you do together, tell him to chill out or get out.

2. Don’t limit the affection.

Be affectionate, sweet, caring, everything that you would be to your close friends. If you start to feel resentful that you’re not getting more from him, that’s a red flag, and you need to discuss it with him (in person, not text) or pull back.

Don’t let his issues with relationships prevent you from expressing your emotions, expressing romantic feelings, being affectionate, being yourself. If you feel nervous or shy in his presence or lose your confidence, you need to get over it asap: FWB situations are abusive to anyone who can’t speak their mind, and a guy will lose respect for you and himself if he knows you’re letting him use you. You need to make it clear that you have a great time with him and would regret not getting to know him better.

If he asks for more, give him a reason for why this arrangement temporarily works right now for you: you just got out of a relationship, you’re focused on school and just want to have fun, etc.

3. Don’t let your life revolve around him.

If he’s not your boyfriend, then you have to continue to flirt with other guys, talk to other people, plan your living and job situation as if you are single. Don’t personally rely on his plans in any important way unless you’ve made a commitment. Don’t let him have all your weekends or time. You are single unless specifically stated otherwise.

Don’t let him be your only fun thing going on: you have to stay emotionally healthy. Try not to think too much about him outside of the time you’re seeing him. Travel on weekend trips without him.

4. Limit last minute sex dates.

Make him plan to see you, and think of fun and interesting things to do. Cook with him, share music with him, etc. If he gets concerned that it’s too much like “boyfriend-girlfriend”, say “Are you enjoying yourself? I don’t want you to feel pressured. I just want to have fun and this was fun.”

5. Make sure you’re always having fun .

If he stops being fun, or isn’t there for you when you need it, then pull out and say, sorry man.

6. Make sure you guys talk like friends in between, and are physically exclusive.

Don’t get an STD from this ish.

The pros of fuck buddy first are that a) you make sure you have awesome chemistry before committing; b) you make sure you guys have great sex before committing; c) you can get to know who he is/what his apartment looks like, his real self, etc. before you commit to someone that is basically a stranger. It’s more natural and less contrived.

The cons: Obviously, he might actually not want a relationship. You might have sex with someone that has a lot of issues and get your feelings hurt. He might not put as much effort in, or feel he owes you anything.

By Em & Lo, yourtango.com

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