If your child is being bullied: All children experience bullying. If they are not the target of a bully, or engaging in bullying behavior themselves, they will witness bullying and be affected by it. As a witness, the child will either identify with the target and feel shame, fear, and vulnerability, or with the bully and be tempted to seek the status associated with the dominant bully.
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Bullying has been defined as one or more individuals inflicting physical, verbal, oremotional abuse on another. The roots of bullying are in our universal desire for social status and our tendency to compete for status by trying to achieve dominance over our peers by verbal competition but also by emotional and physical intimidation.
If we were tiger cubs wrestling with one another, we would think this behavior was cute. But too often the struggle for status crosses the line into abuse, causing lasting harm to the recipient, and also establishing a dysfunctional behavior pattern for the bully which can lead to problems later in life.
Teasing is a form of this verbal and emotional competition. Teasing is often seen as harmless. But it can and does cross the line into emotional abuse, scarring the recipient with humiliation and giving the bully a false sense of superiority. Some targets of cruel teasing have committed suicide.
Teasing and bullying can become a part of the culture of a group, a school, a community or a family. The hazing rituals of some fraternities, educational institutions, or clubs are an example. But even when not ritualized, teasing and bullying can be covertly accepted by a group, making it harder for anyone in the group to stand up to it.
Researchers and writers on this topic have recommended elaborate systemic interventions to attempt to limit abusive teasing and bullying in schools, and these efforts are effective, but they need a lot of continuing maintenance to sustain them.
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