You Can’t Change What You Don’t Acknowledge: Be real with yourself and with your partner. Be honest with yourself about whether somebody is using you or misrepresenting things to you. Of course that will be painful and could leave you feeling betrayed, but you can’t move forward until you recognize what’s going on. That takes courage and strength; you may surprise yourself with both when you start to get real.
Be Forthcoming When You Start a Relationship; Ask for the Same in Return: If you’ve got a secret, it’s probably going to come out eventually. So if you think things in your relationship might get serious, you might as well be honest from the beginning. Likewise, if you have trust issues because you’ve been burnt before, you might say from the get-go: “Listen, I’ve been deceived before. So if I seem a little stand-offish or a little suspicious, let me tell you why. I want you to understand where I’m coming from because I’ve got nothing to hide. I hope you’ll do the same.
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