“If my daughters need to seek permission from their husbands to visit me, I’ll personally come and take them away – Nigerian doctor

Dr. Obianma Onyia, a 52-year-old mother of three from Nigeria, has made waves online by challenging the notion that wives should ask their husbands for permission before visiting their parents.

The Nigerian physician boldly declared that a man who demands these kinds of permissions has failed in his role as head of his household.

In her address to her prospective sons-in-law, Dr. Onyia threatened to personally intervene and remove her daughters from such marriages if they were made to ask their husbands for permission to visit her.

She disregarded the common master-servant arrangements that she said were destroying Nigerian marriages.

She rejected the idea that marriage should be predicated on a hierarchical structure, emphasizing that neither she nor her husband ever required their daughters to ask for permission.

In her words;

“Let me tell you now, I have never sought permission. My hubby and I didn’t raise them to fit into the prevailing master-servant relationships that apparently plague marriages in Nigeria today (yes coz this whole flawed concept is new to me).

“But I paid bride price”- you say.

“Bride price is merely a token of commitment and not a symbol of ownership.

“You must be stark raving mad if you think that your miserable 10,000 (or even 100k) is enough to buy a full grown human being whose parents used several hundred millions to train… or does it cover for all the other sacrifices made that money can’t buy???

“You should aim at being partners who discuss issues amicably as a team and build a strong formidable relationship and a great family that can stand the test of time.

“That should be your aim.

“And not how to enslave and emotionally abuse someone’s innocent precious child.

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